With swimsuit season upon us, I’ve noticed a flurry of discussion (especially among women) of the stress we experience trying to tone-up and look perfect in itty bitty bikinis and filmy summer clothes.
What if I’m not tan enough? What if I’m too skinny or too fat? What if, what if, what if.
We’re terrified of being thought of as anything but as flawless as the mannequins at Urban Planet or the models in Fashion Magazine. The truth is, those mannequins are plastic and those models are air-brushed– a human can’t look that way in ‘real life’, EVER.
This is common knowledge. And yet, we still beat ourselves up about not being perfect.
So how do we change this?
First, we need to acknowledge that we’re almost never being carefully, cruelly scrutinized when we think we are. The other girls on the beach aren’t looking at your stretch marks, and the men you sleep with aren’t judging your scars. Other girls are too busy worrying about their own perceived imperfections and guys are too busy simply being stoked that they’re in bed with you.
Instead of fixating on your “flaws”, focus on what you feel confident about. Wear something that makes you feel pretty, that emphasizes your best features (and STOP reading magazine articles that tell you to cover your ‘arm flab’ and ‘muffin top’! Focus on the positive!) Remember that no one is perfect.
You are beautiful. Enjoy the rest of your summer!